The following letter is from a dear sister of mine, who gave me the permission to share her thoughts about God and her relationship. Reading this letter filled me with encouragement as it reminded me of God’s love and Godly relationships. Sometimes we forget who the author of relationships is, and we think we can define what a relationship should look like. This woman reminded me that I cannot shape a man, and only God can shape that man.
Dearest Mishael,
I really do appreciate the time you took to reflect on your actions. I praise God and thank him for the maturity, you are gaining. I really want to say congratulations. Those are the first steps in becoming God’s servant. You are getting the full meaning of what it means to serve him and adhere to all his ways.
I just want to let you know that I make friends easily, but I make them at a distance. I do appreciate people’s freedom and I don’t want to hold too tight to someone, especially if I know they have the opportunity to find other friends or have had friends before they met me. I don’t like making someone feel like a prisoner around me. When they have searched enough and are satisfied, I will let them know that my door is always open for them. I won’t hate them or push them away. I will remember them and keep them close to my heart. I am have learnt to forgive and reconcile with people, and I keep learning every day. That’s just how I am with friends. Don’t worry too much. I make friends very easily, but I just need to be very open and alert with the friends I have.
When we make decisions, we need to be open to other’s perspectives and not just our own. We need to allow room for other ideas to fit in, or be compatible with our decisions. Above all, we need to allow our hearts to be open to God’s calling. We might make a decision, we believe is the best decision, but do we often stop to ask God “Is this you want from me?” Is this what I should be doing? When I accepted to court you, I was taking responsibility into my own hands. I was at the same time letting God know that I was not ready, but that I would trust him to lead me and guide me. One thing I would not do in our courtship was to let myself get ahead of him. In as much as situations got thick and heavy, and I felt like I do not need this pain, I told him, “Thank you Lord for this chance for me to grow and exercise your love. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to know what true love is, so that I can be able to tell others that it’s not easy.” The only one who can break through a relationship is the author of relationships. There were times that Jesus said “father, take this cup from me.” Again, he would say “not my will be done, but yours alone”. This is the reason I was able to love you.
When I first saw you and said a simple prayer to God, he heard it and I was not going to disappoint him. That is why, I loved you through all the pain you put me through. I learnt how to forgive you and was given the strength to help you grow in your faith. The only way we are to survive as a couple and become a testimony to the world is for you to grow in your faith. Is for you to strengthen your relationship with God and know who he is.
When you are strong enough to take in others under your wing, to nurture them, you will fully understand your calling. You will understand that you do not live for yourself, nor for me, but for God alone. He is a jealous God and does not like when people come to him, when they have personal goals in mind. He wants us to serve him because he is our Lord and saviour. He wants us to give everything to him. He wants us to give up everything that we hold dear, and focus solely on building a firm relationship with him. That is the kind of God we serve. He is not selfish, for if he was, he would not have sent his one and only son to die for our sins.
God knows the plans he has for each and every individual, and he usually prefers us to search for those plans than to start making plans of our own. He would rather we ask him what he wants us to do than for us to be telling him what we want him to do for us. For example, this is what you said: because every day I pray to Him so that he may protect you and mold you to the woman I deserve to have in life, and promised myself to take in charge, protect you and to be there whenever you needed me.” You are telling God what he should do for you. You are not asking God the right questions. For you to grow with God, you will need to ask him what he wants from you. Seek his glory, not him to fix things up for you. Ask him how you can serve him, how you can be a voice for him. When those become your burdens, then you will find that your relationship with him will be stronger, as he begins to reveal himself to you. In return, he will show you how to love me and treat me. I can’t tell you how to treat me. You are not alone in this. He is here always ready for you. When you begin to spend more time with him, in prayer, in his word and meditation, you will fully understand his ways.
I am so glad that you are taking this two weeks to talk to him. I am supporting you in prayer and continued faith, mind, strength and heart to his will. May he reveal to you, your mission. Once you have figured out what he wants from you, you will begin to see things in so many different ways and at different levels. Your focus will be widening his kingdom. I am praying and seeking for God’s favor in your life. That you two will become best of friends and that your joy will be complete in him, as you begin to uncover the mystery he has for you.
You are growing so much and all I can do is praise God every day and thank him. If you find yourself in a situation where the language is not of God, walk away and don’t feel like a coward. It is not the big things that count in following Christ. It is the small things. Make use of your Bible. It is the only defining authority. Go to your pastor and ask him questions. Go ask him to pray with you and pray for you. If you are ashamed of Christ, he will be ashamed of you too before his father. If you want to strengthen your relationship, find someone you can talk to.
I will leave you with these 11 things. If you want you can print them out and put them up on your wall in the house.
A SERVANT OF GOD MUST
- ENDURE HARDSHIPS
- NOT INVOLVE IN GOSSIP
- REMAIN FAITHFUL
- AVOID GODLESS CHATTER
- FLEE THE DSIRES OF YOUR YOUTH
- HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH FOOLISH/STUPID ARGUMENTS
- NOT QUARREL
- BE KIND TO EVERYONE
- BE ABLE TO TEACH
- NOT BE RESENTFUL
- INSTRUCT WITH GENTLENESS
This is from 2 Timothy 2.
I do pray that you will take comfort in him and let him lead your every step to the place where he needs you to be. May your bond with him increase so much so that you won’t have space for yourself or me. It is called SACRIFICE. Sacrificing all your wants so that he can have his way in you. Be blessed and take comfort in him.
Love you always
There people. You have it now. Let me know your thoughts
GOODY'NGLISH 